What is the all-encompassing concept that one can take from this book? This novel seems to identify two different types of “populations”, or “cultures”, that we often look at—the population of disability, as well as the population of queer sexuality. In Galloway’s case, both of these worlds collide, and it is interesting to see how both of these identities play out for her. In Galloway’s life, I think, her disability played more of a role in the conflicts of her life than her sexuality. Indeed, there wasn’t actually any mentioned problem with her sexuality besides coming out to her parents (which turned out better than she had expected), and her own personal frustrations to be able to sexually express herself. Her being deaf, however, was the ultimate contributor to her story and how she came to be. If this book didn’t happen to be used for a Queer Literature class, one might be more apt to focus on the conflict of her disability than her sexuality. Her disability did complicate her sexuality, which is important to note as it is also for this reason that her disability takes a dominate role in the memoir as an internal conflict. There was actually one sex scene where she talked about engaging with other women, and it wasn’t until she changed the position of her face to watch what her partner was saying that Galloway was able to adjust and get into the groove of what was going on so as to please her partner (see page 130), and even then the other woman usually would switch positions and take over being on top.
It is interesting to think that something like a disability could make someone completely different from the rest of the population. We perceive sexuality to act the same way because the choices of sexual excursion are what make queer people different from the rest of the population. But sexual behavior and need is innate, whereas disabilities are usually physical hindrances, including being deaf, blind, paralyzed, or even mentally impaired in some kind of way. These physical instances are something that cannot be changed, compared to how up until recently it seems that psychologists thought that they could change the minds of the queer patients they are given to become a “normal heterosexual” like the rest of the population.